As we live in our bodies in the Western world we are presented with an endless stream
of stereotypes which we are expected to fulfil: in childhood, as students, as parents,
as workers, as the middle aged and, eventually, in retirement and old age.
On reaching 60 last year I soon became aware of just this: that my life is supposedly
over, that I would no longer be taken seriously, notably true for men although not
surprising considering how some of them behave! There was a string of expectations
to be met and behaviours to perform that would firmly place me within that shocking
statistic of 99% of men over 60 failing to do the basic required amount of physical
exercise to maintain some level of fitness, reported in Healthspan Magazine earlier
Not for me! Before her death in 2001 my beloved wife Kaisa and I, over a period
of 32 years, constructed a health-care programme based on a wellness philosophy which
we followed together in her challenge with personal ill health. I have followed
and developed this programme since I came to terms with my grief, recorded in my
book dedicated to this remarkable woman (1).
In my book I recorded one of the great gifts she gave: acknowledging that her unexpressed
and repressed resentment – the product of her childhood in the 1940s as a Finnish
Karelian refugee believing she was unwanted and unloved – was at the root of her
cancer. For me this suggests, acknowledging that other frightening statistic of 1
in 3 of us will now experience cancer, that the millions of pounds being spent by
cancer research organisations is missing the point : to address cancer and reverse
this trend we need to go to the source and ask : Why is cancer consuming so many
of us? The answer will arise as we pursue in our lives a wellness programme which
not only sustains us but permits us to lead a healthy life until the time comes to
leave this physical body.
So what do I do? Many things. I have been a painter all my life and use my creativity
to express myself in whatever way is needed and required. I encourage others in this.
I eat organic food whenever I can, much grown in my garden which I attend to daily.
I walk, cycle, sit in nature and by the sea. I steer well clear of newspapers and
all the deception and fear-generated stuff they carry. I take a range of supplements
and have done so for many years. Core supplements for me are Omega 3 fish oils, a
vitamin B complex, glucosamine, vitamin C, garlic, and a multivitamin and mineral.
I add others to this list as my health needs change.
Most importantly perhaps is the meditation programme I have developed and followed
for many years, now available to others through my website, my recent book (2) and
the courses and Satsang I lead. The true purpose of meditation is to connect you
to Source, to take you to that which is beyond mind and ego, quietening both to the
point of stillness where there is no engagement with or attachment to any thoughts
that arise ( and to any of the associated fears, anxieties, prejudices, beliefs and
memories that give rise to so many of the physical health problems that can develop
from these unaddressed issues and illusions). There are many ways to meditate : dancing,
shaking, walking into nature, focusing on Mantra or simply your breath, moving into
quiescence as we achieve without effort that inner healing which plays a central
role in a wellness philosophy.
As I dance and shake to trance music in my converted garage causing amusement to
those in the neighbourhood and beyond mine is the last laugh as I feel so well, although
this is tinged with sadness as I watch so many unhealthy people, many younger than
me, struggling to cope with their everyday lives. When folk tell me I look so well
I am happy to tell them of what I do, to teach them, something I have done these
past years in the courses and meditations I lead. Gone are the days, though, when
I will preach of these things. I have known for many years now that no matter how
many good people line up to help me their time is wasted if I have no wish to help
I am alive…………and it begins with me……!
References 1 To Kaisa: Life,Love and Complementary Health Care